So it’s 2 am and I must say tis’ this time of night I usually get an inkling to write.
I figured after the last few spitfire posts, it’s time for a little bit of a change in tempo. That being said, I’m here to offer you a little inspiration (very little…as it’s coming from ME, after all) that I came across while chatting with a co-worker today.
It seems in life, there will always be a string of disappointments. For some reason, bad news never has good timing and the saying “when it rains, it pours” is inherently true. Despite life’s little inconveniences, and the challenges we come across each day, our happiness will always come down to one thing——> ourselves.
I have learned (the hard way) that unless we decide we are happy, we won’t be. It doesn’t matter who you are, where you are, what you’re doing, what you’re going through, how bad things are, how good things are, if you decide you’re happy, you will be happy. It’s a completely mental thing, in my opinion.
Granted, there will always be people who need their anti-depressants for a boost… lord knows I wish I had a few stashed somewhere, but even so, with enough discipline and motivation we can MAKE ourselves happy in nearly any situation…
…perhaps minus the Holocaust…or when forced to shop at K-Mart…
…those things are just unforgivable.
As I was rolling silverware today at work today with a fellow server, we were discussing how so many times we get tipped badly for being cheerful. Now that sounds ridiculous, but it’s actually true. You wouldn’t believe the amount of people who come into the restaurant expecting (and subconsciously WANTING) their waiter or waitress to be miserable. It seems more genuine. Who would enjoy being a server, right?
Well as we discussed the situation, it got me thinking a little deeper about how I view my world. We both agreed that we enjoyed our job and viewed it as temporary. So if this is who we are today, why not make the best of it? Sure, working in a restaurant can SUCK. It’s a constant hassle. good management/leadership is a rarity and people assume your brain is the size of a pea. But with that being said, it can also be very rewarding in the sense that I get to meet dozens of new people every day, I’m not trapped in an office and most importantly, I’m actually EMPLOYED… which these days is an accomplishment in itself.
See how easy it is to become a debbie downer right off the bat… but with a total shift in attitude it doesn’t seem so bad after all. It’s all in the way you DECIDE to look at things.
I truly believe right now in today’s society contentment and happiness is at an all-time low with the economy in the state it’s in. 10 percent of the American population is on an antidepressant (USA TODAY reported). But I like to think sometimes things have to suck for us to realize how great our lives really can be.
I see so many discouraged people out there. People who at their core are just down-right depressed. But how do we shed the light on situations that seem so grim? It’s so easy to preach, but it’s impossible to teach.
To me, that alone is proof that happiness is just an outward expression of inner strength.
So be happy, damnit… or prove me wrong.
… and if I’m wrong than I’m going to need some Lexapro on the fly